Sunday, May 9, 2010

Catching Up

I know it has been a while since I have posted. A lot has happened between then and now. Allow me to elaborate.

After a little over a year, The Boy and I are no more. He met a girl, and decided he was a normal, vanilla relationship. Initially, I was hurt that he decided that I didn't have what he wanted long term, especially since I had grown attached to him. However, hindsight is 20/20, and looking back, I realized that while sexually and intellectually we were well matched, I could never be happy with someone like him in the long run. Now, I watch him revel in his new relationship, and quite frankly, I wonder just who the hell this guy is, flourishing in such a vanilla pairing. She's one of those non-intellectual sorority types, and as bland as you can get. I can see where this is going...marriage, kids, minivan, sex on Wednesdays. Those who know me well enough, know that this is not the life I want. It may work for some, but not for me.

Where one door closes, usually another one opens, and I started seeing someone as well. It's still in that new phase, but not sweet and syrupy. Dominance comes natural to him, but understands that it's not a matter of just bossing another person around (something I couldn't quite get The Boy to understand). This journey is shared by both of us. And we are just at the tip of the iceberg of sexually exploring each other. He shares my interest in Tantra, Shibari, and some other forms of kink. He won't share, though, so any types of swinging or poly are out of the question. I'm okay with that.

I'm crazy about him, and apparently he is about me. I look forward to this new adventure.